My Blog

This blog was written for a client who felt life had lost its colour, despite doing all the “right” work—therapy, books, journaling. It explores how a numb or disconnected sexuality can quietly dim everything else, like a heavy blanket muffling your aliveness. I see this pattern so often that I wanted to share it here: sexuality isn’t the star or a taboo; it’s a supportive background layer that, when gently reconnected in a safe space, can restore joy, connection, and vibrancy.

To make love is like tending a garden We plant the seed, water it, and clear the weeds, but we cannot command it to grow. We can only create the right conditions, prepare the soil, nurture the space, and wait. Growth unfolds in its own mysterious way. Sex and true...

I didn’t learn to read in any meaningful sense until my mid-thirties. Until then, books felt like distant worlds, full of power and beauty, but always just out of reach. When I finally crossed that threshold, words transformed into voices, and I felt as if I were...

Lately, I’ve noticed a recurring theme in my conversations: the way myths and misunderstandings about female pleasure keep showing up. It doesn’t matter who I’m talking to or what the original subject is—sooner or later the same thread weaves itself in. And I don’t...

Imagine a couple craving a passionate encounter, but before they can start, their lawyers have to work out consent forms for every kiss, touch, and sigh. That’s the hilarious Fry and Laurie skit from the 1980s, showing how legal consent, rigid and overplanned, leaves...

The Epic of Gilgamesh is an ancient tale of heroism, loss, and the search for what makes us human. Enkidu, one of its key figures, roams wild until Shamhat, a temple priestess, sees the divine spark in him. Her love—sacred, not merely physical—draws out his humanity,...